I’m not one of those lucky people who grew up in one place
with familiar faces all around them. If that was your experience, I truly envy
you. My family moved many times, and I continued that pattern as an adult –
with one exception. When my parents were young and nearly penniless, they
joined with two other families to purchase a tiny summer cabin on an island in
Maine. My family still gathers there almost every summer, and that’s how I get
to appreciate what time does to a familiar place.
When I was little, the entire island had exactly one telephone. It's still there, right next to the Community Hall, down near the public wharf.
When I was little, the entire island had exactly one telephone. It's still there, right next to the Community Hall, down near the public wharf.
As a
teenager, I spent hours on that phone with my college boyfriend, fending off
mosquitoes and pesky interlopers who wanted their turn on the phone. These
days, everyone has landlines and cell phones, but some things don’t change. Cell
service comes and goes out there, and communication with the outside world is
still blessedly sketchy.
When I was little, the woods at the north end of the island
were thick and daunting. The paths were hard to find and if I ever had to walk
through them at night—say, after a cookout on the beach--I would cling to an
adult’s hand the entire time. I will never forget the terror I felt stepping
into the world of those dark, looming evergreens. These days, there’s a sign
post for the path. A sign post!
And if I need some light, I use the flashlight app on my iPhone.
And if I need some light, I use the flashlight app on my iPhone.
What else? In our little cottage, the only toilet was in the
basement where the slugs and spiders lived. When you had to pee at night, you
had a choice between the dreaded trek downstairs and a chamber pot. Every night
I held a long, agonized internal debate about which was better, or at least
less horrid. We had no shower, so we ran around all day long with ocean salt
drying on our skin. Occasionally my mother would heat water on the stove and
stick us in a washtub. The only means we had of cleaning our clothes involved
an old tin washboard and lots of scrubbing. These days? Over the protests of
the younger generation, the elders put in an actual bathroom with tub, shower,
and laundry. I’ve never seen a single slug in there. Peeing has become a
drama-free experience.
It’s amazing how things change even in timeless places like
Cliff Island, and how some things don’t.
We have Internet access now. The
island has a Facebook page and a website for renting cottages. Washing machines
are common, but we still hang our clothes out to dry in the sun. The kids of today are
offered organized activities—soccer games and sandcastle contests—while we had
nothing but bikes, swimsuits and lots of free time. But some things never
change.
On a sunny day, if the tide is right, kids still spend all day at “the
cove,” then skip down to the wharf for an ice cream cone.
I wouldn’t trade my tech-challenged, slug-infested memories for anything. On the other hand, you won’t catch me complaining about WiFi and hot showers. And those flashlight apps – they’re fantastic.
Is there a place you return to every year, or maybe where you've been living since childhood? I'd love to hear about it!
xoxo
Jennifer